On Unfriending

I have used the greater part of my day to rid my life of some negative energy. I channeled me some Eminem and cleaned out my closet, so to speak.

As you already know, I've been feeling a bit blue lately. I guess a more accurate color description would be white, but I just could not use it because when I think of white color imagery I can't help but think of Daisy Buchanon (damn you 11th grade English).


In my thirty-something years of life, I've learned a thing or two. More recently I've learned to realize that life is just too darn short  for me to feel anything less than happy (I mean, I knew this before recently, but it's only been just recently that I did anything about it).

In the past month I've become much more cognizant of the fact that time is fleeting and that I'm simply getting way too old to have to worry about distractions that do nothing more than create negative energy in my life.

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There's been a lot of talk about the idea of "unfriending" a person - a concept that is new to a society taken over by social media (i.e. Facebook). Ten years ago "unfriending" someone meant that you never returned their phone calls or that you some how found a way to avoid them, hoping that they'd get the picture soon enough.

In this day and age, "unfriending" someone can be done quite literally - sending them a message that is pretty crystal. No more wishy-washy.

The problem with "unfriending" is quite obvious: hurt feelings.

There's a whole slew of other side effects (questions, regret, bad business, etc.) but I think the reason we all refrain from "unfriending" on a regular basis is that, compassionate human beings that we are, we don't want to hurt another person's feelings (that and the part about being able to claim 973 friends!).

But what I realized when I sat down to write out my pros and cons of unfriending, is that all the cons? They affect the other person. THE PROS AFFECT YOU! And in a very positive way (that might sound a little selfish, but I'm a firm believer in the idea that there is a time and place to be selfish - especially when it affects your sanity).


So . . . yes.  I unfriended.

Because I'm Worth It!

And what I felt afterward was a beautiful feeling of release. A freedom from negative energy.